LX2 Codependency Coaching

Directed attention

Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning in survival. It isn't until we are really uncomfortable do we then feel like we need to make changes. If we can increase our awareness to the discomfort, we can address the issues likely holding us back from what we want. #awareness #createchange #dothehardthing #growth #mentalhealth 

Emotional coregulation

Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having big feelings with your own big feelings. #coregulation #conflicttools #communication #gaslighting

Having your back

Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doing new or hard things when you have the support of at least one other person who can encourage you and catch you if you stumble. #whohasyourback #askforhelp #doinghardthings #parenting

Rejection sensitivity dysphoria

Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being rejected. It is generally associated with neurodivergent populations like spectrum disorder or ADHD. People will tend to be sensitive to being rejected or othered when they behave differently than their peers or people around them. This can create behavior like conflict avoidance or people pleasing which relates to codependency. It can also lead to people withdrawing from others or anxiety about how they are perceived. #RSD #attachmentstyle #anxiety #mentalhealth #authenticself #secureattachment

Burn out and boundaries

Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we are all struggling with the feelings exhaustion and stress, basically burned out. Identifying our boundaries can help manage some of those feelings. #burnout #boundaries #mentalhealth #takeabreak

Effort goes both ways

Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give that to you, you can walk away. We get to choose who has access to us and our resources. #healthylove #boundaries #mentalhealth #estrangedparents #entitlement 

Failure to thrive

Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging environments, we'll explore how relationships can also fail to flourish without consistent effort and attention. #relationships #thriving #ittakeseffort #skillbuilding

Grit: making it through

Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an awareness of dealing with and working through it. We learn how to make things smooth again and gain the tools tools to work through hard times. #grit #adversity #resilience #makingithrough

Anhedonia; like eating cardboard

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't feel sad, they don't feel anything. This is part of what chronic depression feels like for many people. #depression #anhedonia #mentalhealth #alanis #sgs2025

Doing your best

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting