LX2 Codependency Coaching

Anhedonia; like eating cardboard

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't feel sad, they don't feel anything. This is part of what chronic depression feels like for many people. #depression #anhedonia #mentalhealth #alanis #sgs2025

Doing your best

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting 

Closing the loop

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better. Doing something from beginning to end helps us move forward in life creating a bit of order in the chaos. Managing our anxiety or ADHD, its helpful to pick one things at time, to work through it, and close the loop on the task to feel we are getting things done. #closingtheloop #orderfromchaos #ADHD #anxiety #mentalhealth

Power and Peace

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It might be helpful to control what we can in the moment. Just a reminder that we have gotten through every hard thing we have ever been dealt before now. Protect your peace. #dontgiveup #seasonaldepression #protectyourpeace #controlwhatyoucan

Being the weapon in conflict

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We can notice that some people will use us to validate how they feel about themselves. It is helpful to notice if you are playing into their narrative. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after those confrontations. Increase your awareness of what your own emotional experience is in the interactions with people you often find yourself in conflict with. #relationshipconflict #emotionalexperience #confrontation 

Proud of you

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace, and compassion. It might be helpful to work on looking back and recognizing how far we have come, being proud of the version of us who did some hard work. Take a moment to day to acknowledge your past you and be proud of them. #proudofyou #growth #hardwork #learningeveryday #youhavecomesofar 

Love or oxytocin addiction.

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Choices from fear

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings 

Wrong kind of good

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Losing yourself

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou