LX2 Codependency Coaching

Juice worth the squeeze

Today, we are talking about evaluating life situations and circumstances based on whether they are a benefit for the effort you are putting to them. Often we think if we just give a little more or do more we will get a better outcome. The reality is, we need to be accepting of the situation for what it is and then evaluate if it is good enough or if we want more. That can be hard but not impossible. We don't always get more from some things if we keep squeezing. #cba #codependency #isitworthit #choices #mentalhealth

Strength of relationships

Today, we are taking about how to create strength in the bonds of relationship. I was thinking about steel and how it is strengthened with different elements, heated, and shaped into a strong substance that be used to build, defend, and create. Our relationships are similar in that they can have different elements of personality and skills that will be tested through time. Relationships grow stronger going through hard things and building resilience and trust over time. #strongrelationship #hardtimes #resilience #newchapter

Unintended consequences

Today, we are talking about unintentional consequences of our choices and behaviors. We often take for granted that we don't things in a vacuum and what we do doesn't have an impact on other things. The reality is our behavior will impact others, our partner, children, and the larger whole with what we do. It is helpful to take a moment to observe our own behavior and get curious about how we influence others. #unintendedconsequence #patternrecognition #relationships #mentalhealth

Othered

Today, we are talking about that feeling of being outside of group or situation. Feeling like you are wrong, bad, or other than everyone else. So many people will try to work harder or change who they are to fit in. Once you recognize you are enough just they way you are, you start to feel a sense of peace. Feeling comfortable in your skin being your whole self. #other #protectyourpeace #peoplepleasing #beyourself 

Knowing and trusting yourself

Today, we are talking about the knowing that comes with experience and especially going through hard things. Yes there is healing and growing from the things we don't choose. The knowing we gain is so important to creating trust that we can do whatever we need to get through the challenges life throws at us. Building the wealth of understanding, skills, and tools we get from going through life. The older we get, if we are so fortunate to have more time on the planet. #knowing #hardthings #skills #trustyourself #mentalhealth #growthmindset

Fitting in and belonging

Today, we are talking about the spaces we occupy considering where we came from and where we want to be. It is one thing to feel comfortable being your full authentic self in a space and another to feel like we don't belong What you do to fit in is up to you. #belonging #fittingin #takeupspace #beingauthentic #impostersyndrome 

Weather the storm

Today, we are talking about how to get through the challenges that seem to come one after the other. The shit storm that happens in everyone's life at one point or another. It's helpful to check your facts, control what you can, and recognize all of it is temporary. We can relate to those times when unexpected things happen and we feel unprepared. Remember, you have been able to get through every other storm before now. #mentalhealth #anxiety #weatherthestorm #checkyourfacts

What not to do

Today, we are talking about the things we learn from our parents, including what not to do. It is helpful to consider all the elements it takes to be an effective and consistent parent considering all the elements of influence. No, parents doesn't come with a handbook but there are lots of ways to become better at it at any stage. #parenting #readabook #onthejobtrainting #mentalhealth #whatnottodo

Slow problem

Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep them under the rug or ignore hoping they change on their own. What happens is they eventually become larger issues and get overwhelming over time. It is helpful to have conversations or address them when they are small so they don't have bigger consequences that can end connection or contentment. #slowproblem #conflict #communication #elephantintheroom

Getting out

Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you that you're in. The first step is to acknowledge and accept the situation for what it is. Let go of the idea that there is potential or it will get better. Look for models or other ways of doing the thing. Finally, create just one step to start building a different circumstance. Any one of us can change but it takes consistent effort. #gettingout #makingchange #lookforward #acceptance